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Marriage. Where Could We Be? (Part Two)

  "At a mainstream level, we seldom seriously examine some of the core expectations of those who actually do freely decide that marriage is for them. Too many of the counselors whom the popular media pushes write to “improve” those people who have already bought into marriage’s current definitions.
  They don’t become popular by questioning the core assumptions that are guaranteed to keep the institution disappointing. Their books would be too challenging to get past a publisher’s marketing expert.
  Yet, when one marries, one brings to the relationship all of the role expectations they’ve learned from our society. On top of these, another set of roles – marriage roles – are added....

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"A number of my single friends who aren’t seeing anyone just hate Valentine’s Day. They feel completely left out of everything it represents.
When they see couples out celebrating, it only reinforces their feelings of loneliness. They “have no one.”
If they’ve just gone through a divorce, it’s even worse. Seeing all those apparently happy couples reinforces what they’ve lost. It seems to erase the memories of the awful times with their exes and inflates any good ones.
On the surface Valentine’s Day is the perfect holiday for our consumer-oriented culture. The standard expectations about how one shows love are all involved with buying something. The more expensive the gift, the more it proves our love...."

Read more in Dr. Minor's latest column: "What Are We Thinking About Valentine's Day?"

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