We want to believe that everyone means what they say. We want to believe that a little more educating and presentation of the facts convinces people.
We think that explaining ourselves over and over again and spending a lot of energy to understand the right-wing will help us get along. We’re invested in the idea that showing them we care about their views – even claiming we “respect” irrational views – will win them over.
And when these things don’t work, we blame ourselves, our lack of listening skills, our lack of empathy, our neglect to spend enough time, or our failure to articulate clearly what we mean. We treat ourselves as the guilty party in the debates and actually, though we’d never admit it to ourselves, end up looking down on right-wingers and their dupes as if they’re mere victims of ignorance, misinformation or illogic, not as actors who make choices and cling to their prejudices no matter how we argue....
There are certain strategies that the right-wing (and others) will use – words and phrases that say one thing that makes their liberal enemies fall into guilt, into belief that liberals are the problem and need to put more energy into useless arguments....
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I Had Time to Read Only One Other Article This Week,
Most Helpful One for My Work Would Be —
Former Congressional Staffers: "Indivisible:
A Practical Guide for Resisting the Trump Agenda" (January 2, 2016)
From the Intrioduction:
"The authors of this guide are former congressional staffers who witnessed the rise of the Tea Party. We saw these activists take on a popular president with a mandate for change and a supermajority in Congress. We saw them organize locally and convince their own MoCs to reject President Obama’s agenda.
Their ideas were wrong, cruel, and tinged with racism— and they won.
We believe that protecting our values, our neighbors, and ourselves will require mounting
a similar resistance to the Trump agenda — but a resistance built on the values of inclusion, tolerance, and fairness. Trump is not popular. He does not have a mandate. He does not have large congressional majorities.
If a small minority in the Tea Party can stop President Obama, then we the majority can stop a petty tyrant named Trump.
To this end, this brief guide offers a step-by-step guide for individuals, groups, and organizations looking to replicate the Tea Party’s success in getting Congress to listen to a small, vocal, dedicated group of constituents. The guide is intended to be equally useful for stiffening Democratic spines and weakening pro-Trump Republican resolve...."
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Religion Is an Addiction
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Minor Writes on Love, Dating, and Relationships
His Latest Column on 50PlusPrime.com
In all relationships, the need to win an argument, the need to be right, affects how we get along. And the other person in the debate probably has that same psychological need to be right as we do.
So, this mutual motivation to be right is likely to multiply in every conflict, major or minor. And since any relationship is guaranteed to have disagreements - if both people are thinking, that is - the need to be right can sour any of them.
Yeah, yeah, I know. We might think that being right is just about making sure the truth gets out there. We might convince ourselves that it’s become our duty to defend the facts.
But once we and our partner have stated our positions and move into a defensive mode, it’s about more than truth - a more that’s even more important for relationships than convincing someone what’s right....
more in Dr. Minor's latest column: "RIght Now, Practice GIving Yourself Permission to Not Win an Argument"
Fairness Project On-Line Activist Tool Kit
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Dr. Minor's popular workshop: "Being an Activist
Without Being a Victim." These materials are chosen
because they encourage activist leadership to proceed
from a progressive, healing model which contradicts
the models of leadership found in most popular
forms, models that are meant to keep the system
in place rather than to make changes that support
humanity, and result in burnout among leaders.
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